My Notes on True Love.

As I travel on this journey with my partner P. I realize that REAL love is better than any dream. This has not been the easiest road to travel.

True Love is not a make-believe story where two people meet, their life is perfect, and they live happily-ever-after. Well, they CAN live happily every after. Only after overcoming obstacles together.

The passion it takes to create life cannot necessarily sustain a stable union. 

We are human.

Real love comes from compassion.

True Love flourishes from holding on when everyone else lets go.

True love teaches us valuable lessons of self-reflection like a mirror. Sometime we suffer, sacrifice, and do so in silence but we also learn, grow, and evolve.


When love is real - it is RAW. You will feel every emotion to the core of your being - every emotion has deeper meaning: hate, anger, resentment, bitterness, regret, loss, frustration - this is the beginning of an emotional cleansing. A catharsis of the soul. You cannot build upon residual negativity. Our thoughts too must be purified. More to come...

“Love is not idealization. A true Lover knows that if you really love a woman or a man, that you do not idealize him or her. Love means that you accept a person, with all his/her failures, stupidities, ugly points and nonetheless the person is absolute for you, everything that makes life worth living, that you see perfection in imperfection itself. And that is how we should learn to love the world.”

~Slavoj Zizek (Slovenian philosopher)

EXCUSES. Everybody has one.

Note: I am currently in a stable, loving partnership. My posts are not personal. Every time I write about relationships someone assumes the worst. We are A-ok! Thank you :)

In my experience, when someone wants to be in your life they will not make excuses - money, distance, timing, weather etc...only matter when you are uncertain. STOP making excuses for someone who does not put in the effort. Much love CRYSTAL. #LifeLessons

“It is better to offer no excuse than a bad one.”
― George Washington

SPIRITUAL PARTNERSHIPS by Gary Zukav (A Brief Book Review).

“A power struggle collapses when you withdraw your energy from it. Power struggles become uninteresting to you when you change your intention from winning to learning about yourself.”

― Gary Zukav

Note: Nobody on earth has ALL the answers. This book will not magically solve your burdens or worries. The purpose of sharing this is to help those who are already emotionally/internally aware of themselves. They are in some kind of pain. They want to make a difference in their lives. This is a good starting place. Ultimately, we must be willing to put in the work. Change takes time. It is a process that begins with admitting their is a problem. From there we should search for practical SOLUTIONS. Always focus on finding a SOLUTION. Never dwell on a problem. This will only magnify what is upsetting you. That being said: there are not simple, one-size fits all answers to our problems. Nature has an interesting way to balance out the positive and negative.

“The universe is so well balanced that the mere fact that you have a problem also serves as a sign that there is a solution.” 
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

Since I've had my Kindle, buying books is as easy as "one-click". Therefore, I can purchase many books at a reasonable price and read on my own time between studying and taking care of my daughter.

On New Years, 2014, I celebrated my one year anniversary with P.

My current partnership with P. has taken me on a journey towards self discovery that I never thought was possible. He has been a guide towards better understanding my motives. Each of us should take time to understand why we do or say things. Words can hurt or heal even more so than our actions. Furthermore, when we hurt those we love it is usually out of fear.

Anne Frank — 'In spite of everything I still believe that people are really good at heart."


I am eternally grateful for my current relationship. We are truly partners who practice what we preach : Unconditional Love. We give each other the space. The freedom. To be - emotionally especially. He accepts all of me. The good, the bad, & the ugly.

We have overcome major obstacles together. Everyone's evolution is unique in relation to the lessons they chose before incarnating physically.

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience." - Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

We hold the key to growing & evolving spiritually. To form deeper. Longer-lasting bonds. "You cannot grow spiritually until you have the courage to enter into meaningful & significant relationships." 

Authentic Power = INTERNAL. This creates substance & depth to all your relationships (family, friends, business). Each of us craves this kind of connection whether we are aware of it or not.
Spiritual Partners are supportive of each other. They recognize the (internal) courage, commitment, compassion in one another - they look beyond the facade or "outer image" into each others hearts and minds. 

External power pertains to those who are only focused on satisfying the 5 sense of the physical/material world. Their power is seen manifested in making lots of money and big business ventures. Yet they are empty vessels.

They know how to put on a show yet have nothing going on a spiritual level. Think of your body as a vessel and your thoughts as the motor that controls you. Your thoughts guide your every action that decide where you will end up tomorrow or even a decade from now.

When a ship has a weak motor, it cannot move. Same with your thoughts. When you put limits or have high expectations from the external world, your possibilities begin to diminish. You become stuck in a rut.

Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” 
― Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich: A Black Choice

When anyone has to show others their power through arrogance, pride, ego - they are actually weak within. They are overcompensating for lack of love.

In love, I am not talking about fairy tales or Romeo and Juliet. The love I a referring to is Unconditional acceptance. They do not feel it for themselves. Therefore, it is impossible to project it onto those around them. It is easier to judge others. To criticize than to transform themselves.

Practicing positive perceptions is the first step toward understanding compassion.

“When you have an emotional reaction to what you see, you are judging. That is your signal that you have an issue inside of yourself - with yourself - not with the other person. If you react to evil, look inside yourself for the very thing that so agitates you, and you will find it. If it were not there, you will simply discern, act appropriately, and move on.” ― Gary Zukav, Soul to Soul: Communications from the Heart

I highly recommend this book for anyone who is actively seeking a CHANGE in their relationship dynamics. Both internally and externally.

The bottom line is this:: Nobody is born perfect. Mistakes are inevitable.As long as we keep an open mind. We are willing to evolve into better human beings our time here was worth every second.

“I don't want to live in the kind of world where we don't look out for each other. Not just the people that are close to us, but anybody who needs a helping hand. I cant change the way anybody else thinks, or what they choose to do, but I can do my bit.” 
― Charles de Lint

#wednesdaywisdom #livelaughlove

Crystal XOXO.