TwinFlame Intro: Allow me to be your guide.

💗It's no mystery...We all want to attract LOVE. First we must know what we want. Who we are. And where we are going.

I've been elevated to a deeper understanding of the #twinflame Union. It's deeper than many of us could fathom. Happy Searching....💞

🔥 Twin Flame relationships awaken your soul. This is not about partying, hooking up, arguing, reuniting and repeating for years.💤 That is a distraction from your self development. A Divine counterpart helps your soul grow. Upon the encounter you will be thrust in the same direction. Suddenly Possibilities will appear that which you've never known or seen until your souls made contact. There is nothing sexier than knowing where you are going TOGETHER.

👑 Do you both have "twinflame potential"? This must be MUTUAL because this must manifest in the Physical world. You are teachers & fearless warriors of divine LOVE. Together, you set the example. One of you must be spiritually evolved. If one of you is not quite there but open minded to  evolve, then the potential is certainly there.

💥 there is an instant recognition. (Your paths crossed & both of you felt an energy)

💥you met randomly (one or both of you were not supposed to be at that particular place or time)

💥one or both of you may already be In   relationship to another person. You may not want to leave your current partner yet whenever your TF is around you can sense their spirit.  You share the most powerful energetic connection between two souls.

💥astrologically, you could be the same SUN sign but the complete opposite: male/female. Yin/yang.

💥 You complement each other: for example, the male might be very stable financially while the woman provides the spiritual nourishment. Together they combine their gifts to inspire others.

💥You rise above pointless disagreements that do not promote internal growth whereas other couples will let petty squabbles interfere with their purpose together.

🌟Both of you have discovered your soul purpose in this lifetime, you met while on the same path of SERVING others.

💫The connection is indescribable, there is a memory of an ancient love, once you meet you are inseparable even when physically apart.

🌟You share dreams of the past & visions of the future.

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My Notes on True Love.

As I travel on this journey with my partner P. I realize that REAL love is better than any dream. This has not been the easiest road to travel.

True Love is not a make-believe story where two people meet, their life is perfect, and they live happily-ever-after. Well, they CAN live happily every after. Only after overcoming obstacles together.

The passion it takes to create life cannot necessarily sustain a stable union. 

We are human.

Real love comes from compassion.

True Love flourishes from holding on when everyone else lets go.

True love teaches us valuable lessons of self-reflection like a mirror. Sometime we suffer, sacrifice, and do so in silence but we also learn, grow, and evolve.


When love is real - it is RAW. You will feel every emotion to the core of your being - every emotion has deeper meaning: hate, anger, resentment, bitterness, regret, loss, frustration - this is the beginning of an emotional cleansing. A catharsis of the soul. You cannot build upon residual negativity. Our thoughts too must be purified. More to come...

“Love is not idealization. A true Lover knows that if you really love a woman or a man, that you do not idealize him or her. Love means that you accept a person, with all his/her failures, stupidities, ugly points and nonetheless the person is absolute for you, everything that makes life worth living, that you see perfection in imperfection itself. And that is how we should learn to love the world.”

~Slavoj Zizek (Slovenian philosopher)

EXCUSES. Everybody has one.

Note: I am currently in a stable, loving partnership. My posts are not personal. Every time I write about relationships someone assumes the worst. We are A-ok! Thank you :)

In my experience, when someone wants to be in your life they will not make excuses - money, distance, timing, weather etc...only matter when you are uncertain. STOP making excuses for someone who does not put in the effort. Much love CRYSTAL. #LifeLessons

“It is better to offer no excuse than a bad one.”
― George Washington

SPIRITUAL PARTNERSHIPS by Gary Zukav (A Brief Book Review).

“A power struggle collapses when you withdraw your energy from it. Power struggles become uninteresting to you when you change your intention from winning to learning about yourself.”

― Gary Zukav

Note: Nobody on earth has ALL the answers. This book will not magically solve your burdens or worries. The purpose of sharing this is to help those who are already emotionally/internally aware of themselves. They are in some kind of pain. They want to make a difference in their lives. This is a good starting place. Ultimately, we must be willing to put in the work. Change takes time. It is a process that begins with admitting their is a problem. From there we should search for practical SOLUTIONS. Always focus on finding a SOLUTION. Never dwell on a problem. This will only magnify what is upsetting you. That being said: there are not simple, one-size fits all answers to our problems. Nature has an interesting way to balance out the positive and negative.

“The universe is so well balanced that the mere fact that you have a problem also serves as a sign that there is a solution.” 
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

Since I've had my Kindle, buying books is as easy as "one-click". Therefore, I can purchase many books at a reasonable price and read on my own time between studying and taking care of my daughter.

On New Years, 2014, I celebrated my one year anniversary with P.

My current partnership with P. has taken me on a journey towards self discovery that I never thought was possible. He has been a guide towards better understanding my motives. Each of us should take time to understand why we do or say things. Words can hurt or heal even more so than our actions. Furthermore, when we hurt those we love it is usually out of fear.

Anne Frank — 'In spite of everything I still believe that people are really good at heart."


I am eternally grateful for my current relationship. We are truly partners who practice what we preach : Unconditional Love. We give each other the space. The freedom. To be - emotionally especially. He accepts all of me. The good, the bad, & the ugly.

We have overcome major obstacles together. Everyone's evolution is unique in relation to the lessons they chose before incarnating physically.

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience." - Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

We hold the key to growing & evolving spiritually. To form deeper. Longer-lasting bonds. "You cannot grow spiritually until you have the courage to enter into meaningful & significant relationships." 

Authentic Power = INTERNAL. This creates substance & depth to all your relationships (family, friends, business). Each of us craves this kind of connection whether we are aware of it or not.
Spiritual Partners are supportive of each other. They recognize the (internal) courage, commitment, compassion in one another - they look beyond the facade or "outer image" into each others hearts and minds. 

External power pertains to those who are only focused on satisfying the 5 sense of the physical/material world. Their power is seen manifested in making lots of money and big business ventures. Yet they are empty vessels.

They know how to put on a show yet have nothing going on a spiritual level. Think of your body as a vessel and your thoughts as the motor that controls you. Your thoughts guide your every action that decide where you will end up tomorrow or even a decade from now.

When a ship has a weak motor, it cannot move. Same with your thoughts. When you put limits or have high expectations from the external world, your possibilities begin to diminish. You become stuck in a rut.

Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” 
― Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich: A Black Choice

When anyone has to show others their power through arrogance, pride, ego - they are actually weak within. They are overcompensating for lack of love.

In love, I am not talking about fairy tales or Romeo and Juliet. The love I a referring to is Unconditional acceptance. They do not feel it for themselves. Therefore, it is impossible to project it onto those around them. It is easier to judge others. To criticize than to transform themselves.

Practicing positive perceptions is the first step toward understanding compassion.

“When you have an emotional reaction to what you see, you are judging. That is your signal that you have an issue inside of yourself - with yourself - not with the other person. If you react to evil, look inside yourself for the very thing that so agitates you, and you will find it. If it were not there, you will simply discern, act appropriately, and move on.” ― Gary Zukav, Soul to Soul: Communications from the Heart

I highly recommend this book for anyone who is actively seeking a CHANGE in their relationship dynamics. Both internally and externally.

The bottom line is this:: Nobody is born perfect. Mistakes are inevitable.As long as we keep an open mind. We are willing to evolve into better human beings our time here was worth every second.

“I don't want to live in the kind of world where we don't look out for each other. Not just the people that are close to us, but anybody who needs a helping hand. I cant change the way anybody else thinks, or what they choose to do, but I can do my bit.” 
― Charles de Lint

#wednesdaywisdom #livelaughlove

Crystal XOXO.

Does Absence really make the Heart Grow Fonder?

There is a Spanish saying::

"Amor de lejos es amor de tontos"...Long distance love is a FOOLS love.

ღ ღ ღ Being an adult requires making mature, often difficult decisions...If anyone would have told me this a few years ago, I would have laughed it off as envy of my "perfect LOVE". I mean what other couple traveled the world together for 2 weeks. We were never bored because we were in a different city every time we met. We didn't have to deal with everyday "emotions" or the responsibility of paying bills, plus there was plenty of space & distance between us! An ocean in fact. We felt FREE!!

By all accounts our relationship was a fairy tale or a fantasy depending on your view of reality. I saw my married friends struggling & felt, what? Me, Settle down... Live a typical life of matrimonial monotony? No thank you!

The first two years were filled with bliss & endless adventures. We were in New orleans, Miami, London, not to mention room service everywhere we went. Then reality slowly set in in. Our LDR, long distance relationship was costing us thousands of dollars a year just to meet up 10 times.  Then after a week or two of being together every waking moment we would be apart for many weeks. It was torture being apart!!

Relocation? That was possible yet not likely because he had signed a 7 year Royal navy Contract before we met. He was making a serious salary that funded most of our traveling. Quitting was out of the question. I was not about to uproot my entire life to another country. Not even for love. Logic ultimately  conquered the romantic within my spirit.

Suddenly, I felt less like a jet setting princess and more prince-less as the tension mounted. Our once passionate connection was coming to an end.

The last time I was in England was Christmas 2008. Shortly after I returned home in 2009 we officially broke up. So much happened leading up to that, however details do not matter now. The 3500 miles between us certainly didn't soften the blow. We definitely had a deeply emotional bond. Even after I had a child & he married someone else we stayed in touch. He still wanted to skype but I refused. I knew it was time to move on because we both deserved more. And now we do have someone who we do not have to miss or take a plane just for a simple kiss.

Well, I am not totally against long distance love. Just remember that it is easier to "like" someone from a distance. Rather than dealing with their daily drama. Distance can feel SAFE depending how you handle emotional proximity... Commitment requires much more than FUN... I had to journey many miles to discover this. Relationships are EMOTIONAL investments. Of course nothing in life is guarenteed. Perhaps I can save smeone some heartache because time is one thing we cannot buy back once it is lost.

♪♫♬♫ No, you can't always get what you want
You can't always get what you want
You can't always get what you want
And if you try sometime you find
You get what you need....The Rolling Stones ♪❥♪

 Crystal Hayward © 2014.

MY GUY.

My man is domesticated with a wild side. DEEP but I don't drown**STABLE:: he is able to keep BOTH of his feet on the ground ~ I admire his OPTIMISM in the face of adversity ~ his eyes disguise the strength nobody else but me can see.

A sharp fashion sense, and business savvy served with a side of sensuality & spirituality - coupled with a dry WIT & INTELLECT - the kind of HUMOR that makes a girl MELT. Especially when I turn to ICE -  what's TWICE as nice is HIS gorgeous smile & WARM, honest heart... we can FEEL each other even when we are MILES apart <3. His scent makes me feel sexy & secure. At night I can REST my head on his chest. We have been put to the TEST, that is for sure!! Partners for LIFE. I know someday this man will make me his WIFE... WE are NOT a novelty. This is my REALITY:)

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