"Amor de lejos es amor de tontos"...Long distance love is a FOOLS love.
ღ ღ ღ Being an adult requires making mature, often difficult decisions...If anyone would have told me this a few years ago, I would have laughed it off as envy of my "perfect LOVE". I mean what other couple traveled the world together for 2 weeks. We were never bored because we were in a different city every time we met. We didn't have to deal with everyday "emotions" or the responsibility of paying bills, plus there was plenty of space & distance between us! An ocean in fact. We felt FREE!!
By all accounts our relationship was a fairy tale or a fantasy depending on your view of reality. I saw my married friends struggling & felt, what? Me, Settle down... Live a typical life of matrimonial monotony? No thank you!
The first two years were filled with bliss & endless adventures. We were in New orleans, Miami, London, not to mention room service everywhere we went. Then reality slowly set in in. Our LDR, long distance relationship was costing us thousands of dollars a year just to meet up 10 times. Then after a week or two of being together every waking moment we would be apart for many weeks. It was torture being apart!!
Relocation? That was possible yet not likely because he had signed a 7 year Royal navy Contract before we met. He was making a serious salary that funded most of our traveling. Quitting was out of the question. I was not about to uproot my entire life to another country. Not even for love. Logic ultimately conquered the romantic within my spirit.
Suddenly, I felt less like a jet setting princess and more prince-less as the tension mounted. Our once passionate connection was coming to an end.
The last time I was in England was Christmas 2008. Shortly after I returned home in 2009 we officially broke up. So much happened leading up to that, however details do not matter now. The 3500 miles between us certainly didn't soften the blow. We definitely had a deeply emotional bond. Even after I had a child & he married someone else we stayed in touch. He still wanted to skype but I refused. I knew it was time to move on because we both deserved more. And now we do have someone who we do not have to miss or take a plane just for a simple kiss.
Well, I am not totally against long distance love. Just remember that it is easier to "like" someone from a distance. Rather than dealing with their daily drama. Distance can feel SAFE depending how you handle emotional proximity... Commitment requires much more than FUN... I had to journey many miles to discover this. Relationships are EMOTIONAL investments. Of course nothing in life is guarenteed. Perhaps I can save smeone some heartache because time is one thing we cannot buy back once it is lost.
You can't always get what you want
You can't always get what you want
And if you try sometime you find
You get what you need....The Rolling Stones ♪❥♪
Crystal Hayward © 2014.
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